Book Me To Speak Upcoming Events
Professional Praise Testimonials Press
 

Get (& keep) a healthy, soulful, lasting relationship in the chaos of the modern dating world.

I'LL SHOW YOU HOW.

 
 
DSC_2397 copy.jpg
 

HI - I’M PERSIA

I’m an Author, Speaker and ‘one of the UK’s most successful love coaches’ to high-achieving women (according to The Times magazine).

Having once been a serial cheater & obsessive love addict, I’m proud to now be in a healthy, committed relationship with my fiance Joe, and am passionate about helping women heal & improve their own love lives through my digital & 1:1 love-coaching programs.

MORE ON MY STORY HERE

 
BUY
 
The Inner Fix.png
Persia Tile 1.jpg

GET INSTANT DATING & RELATIONSHIP TIPS

Every week, I answer your dating/ relationship questions via my Instagram Livestreams. Covering everything from "How To Get Over A Break-Up Fast" to “The #1 Love Life LIE Successful Women Tell Themselves” to “What To Do If You Accidentally Fart On A Date” I guarantee there’s a video here for you - whatever your romantic situation!

Persia Tile 2.png

FREE EBOOK: 7 STEPS TO FINDING REAL, LASTING LOVE IN A SUPERFICIAL WORLD

This free ebook reveals the EXACT process I used myself (as well as dozens of my love-coaching clients) to go from being regularly ghosted, heartbroken or disappointed in love to attracting the happiest, healthiest, most soulful relationship of my life (within 3 months of putting the tools in the book into practice).

Persia Tile 3 v2.jpg

THE LOVE HUB (FREE FB GROUP)

This free FB group is for women who are committed to transforming their love life so they can attract (& sustain) the healthy, soulful, lasting relationship they deserve. With weekly ‘Hump Day’ video love trainings & ongoing support from myself and incredible women working towards the same romantic goals, this is truly a tribe like no other.

 

“Refreshingly honest, raw & relatable, Persia really knows her stuff when it comes to dating & relationships and is trailblazing a path for those ready to learn how to find & nurture real, soulful love.”

- Sadie Frost, Producer, Actress & Designer

READ MORE

 
Persia1-2234.jpg
 

“It has been incredible to witness Persia step into her power as a leader for a new generation of seekers. Her commitment to love and service is divine. This woman is a beautiful guide and mentor for us all!"

- Gabrielle Bernstein, New York Times No. 1 Bestselling Author, Speaker & Coach

READ MORE

 

 CONNECT WITH ME ON INSTAGRAM

❣️SAVOUR EVERY MOMENT 💫 We’ve just spent a beautiful weekend in one of our most special places with our favourite local London trio. Certain events transpired that were a huge reminder to us all how very, very precious (and short) life is. This is not a dress rehearsal my loves. We don’t get a second shot (as far as we know). None of us can anticipate what’s around the next corner. There is just now, this moment. So don’t wait to tell them you love them. Don’t allow yourself to wallow in resentment & pettiness, however tempting it can sometimes be. And most importantly, don’t put off celebrating & planning adventures with your loved ones, because the money, time & energy spent on creating incredible, lasting memories with them will truly be the best investment you will ever, ever make. Give me a ‘🙏🏼’ in the comments ⬇️ if you’re going to join me in committing to this way of loving & living from this moment on 🧡
❣️Don’t expect to get the relationship of your dreams without some serious footwork. - It takes discipline, consistency & hella courage to turn away from what’s familiar and step in to a new kind of romantic dynamic. - It takes showing up for yourself & your life - day in day out - in a way that reflects your level of self-awareness & self-respect. - It takes saying NO to the men who don’t treat you as you wish to be treated - even when you’re lonely & could really do with some attention. - ❣️If you want a love you’ve never had, you’re going to have to think & behave in a way you haven’t done so far in your romantic life. - So, tell me: Are you ACTUALLY ready for your dream relationship? If so, give me a ‘💪’ below ⬇️ - Quote #regram @missclairahermet
❣️In order to ‘see’ your lover, you must first be willing to truly SEE & understand yourself. - This ‘Mau’ yoga mat from my dear friend @samaramorrisphotographer’s incredible yogi brand @artogi has a stunning print of Mau on it. Mau is the goddess of light & colour from Egyptian mythology, who's translation means "to see". - I chose this specific mat to remind me (during & between yoga practices) that my perception of another person or partner is always influenced by how I’m choosing to see myself, them AND the situation in any given moment. - ❣️When you look at your (potential) romantic partner, are you ‘seeing’ from a place of love, compassion & trust, or from a place of fear, judgement & doubt? - Remember that - as @drwaynedyer said, we don’t attract who we want, we attract who we are. - So in order to have healthy, fulfilling & expansive romantic relationships, our sole focus & energy needs to be directed towards BECOMING the person we want to call in to our lives. - Do you agree? If so give me a 🙏🏼 below ⬇️ xx - 📸 by the multi-talented @samaramorrisphotographer
@greatadventures__joeygould paid for me to get this tattoo last year to cheer me up when I was feeling glum about something or other. It represents ‘peace, love & music’ (i.e. festivals - very special to both of us). We were meant to be @houghtonfestival this weekend, but sadly it was cancelled due to the shitty weather, so we made the best of the free stretch of time we had and went & stay at Joe’s aunty & uncle’s in beautiful Oxfordshire and ended up having the most lush, relaxing time. Turns out The Stones we’re right - you can’t always get what you want, but you might just get what you need 😝💫🧡🦕
@houghtonfestival may have been cancelled, but the festie spirit commenced anyway 😍🦕💫
⬆️ NEW BLOG ✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨ “It’s a terrifying thing when love finally works. When I was single and everyone around me seemed not to be, it was almost impossible to imagine myself ever wanting to walk (correction: RUN) away from a happy, stable relationship. Yet, that’s how I’ve sometimes felt over the last three months since I got engaged to my beloved Joey Wilderness. (Not a common admission from a bride to be, I know). The truth is that there are moments I’m overcome with gratitude, excitement and even a sense of relief that my future is officially hitched to my forever person’s. And there are other times when I’m fucking terrified. TER-RI-FIED. What if us bringing the government into our bedroom is a bad idea? What if it isn’t? Who will I be with you in the years ahead? Who would I be without you? ‘Til death do us part’ is a pretty hefty commitment. And an uncertain one. Could mean five years. Could mean five minutes. Who knows? Why does no one ever tell you about the comforting dread of ‘FOREVER’ when it comes to crossing the threshold? What I do know in my bones is that...” [continued via link in my stories] 🧡🦕
HANDS UP who resonates with this ⬆️ (Now or in the past) 🤚 - @createthelove
Happy happy happy birthday to my @greatadventures__joeygould 😍💫🤩 You’re my favourite person in the entire world. Sad you can’t be here with our folks doing the wedding recce today, but can’t wait to celebrate with you & the crew @houghtonfestival this weekend - last festival we attend before we host our own! BRING IT ON 💪🌶✨
For every woman you covet for her happily ever after, There’s five who’d (nearly) kill for your latest career achievement. For every time you bemoan your lack of a plus one, There are many more moments when your solitude is your most treasured luxury. For every stomach-churningly hideous first date, There’s a third so electric your married friend would sell her firstborn to switch places for the night. For every Christmas without that extra gift, There’s a birthday that’s not your job to stress about. For all those nights you panic you’re being left behind in love, There are dozens of days when you lap your peers in productivity & purpose. For every man you wish was yours, There’s another woman who wishes he wasn’t hers. For every romantic city break you long to book, There’s an annual girl’s trip you’d miss over your dead body. For all the love you’re currently not making, There’s a pocket rocket that never fails to satisfy. For all the times you’d give anything to be married, There’s another woman who’d give anything not to be. For all the dinners, flowers, candles he isn’t treating you to, There’s a soul sister who surprises you with VIP tickets to the Spice Girls. For every lonely evening without a Netflix & Chill bedmate, There’s a magic morning where star-fishing, farting & morning breath go unjudged. For all the times you dream of being held by your soulmate, There’s the possibility they could walk in to your reality that very same day. So, stop convincing yourself there’s something missing from your life. Stop kidding yourself that all your coupled-up friends have it so much better than you do. And, stop overlooking the magnitude of love that’s already present; Millions would give everything to be in your shoes.
God I love my girls 🧡 Haven’t seen @greatadventures__joeygould for a week, but these ones came first last night. It may sound counterintuitive BUT, if you want your romantic relationship to last, you need to stop prioritising it over all your other relationships (I learned this one the hard way!) Do you agree? Give me a ❣️ below ⬇️ if so 🧡
This is me hours before meeting the love of my life @greatadventures__joeygould on the Friday @wildernesshq festival 4 years ago last night (if only current me could quantum leap back to this moment and tell that version of me that she’s literally about to meet her future husband! 😍💫) - Feels strange not to be at the festie for the first time in 5 years, but it was time for us to move on to a new chapter (hello @houghtonfestival next weekend ✨🌶) - If you long for a love story that’ll knock your socks off (& actually LAST) trust me when I say it IS possible. - BUT, you’ve got to be willing to step up and become the woman who can hold the space & energy for the kind of relationship you desire. It won’t just fall out of the sky in to your lap as the world would have you believe. - ❣️Tell me in the comments ⬇️ what you are ACTIVELY doing to become that woman?
❣️To all my high-flying ladies out there, I have a message for you so listen up: - STOP taking shit from men that you would NEVER put up with from clients, colleagues or bosses. - I see this ALL the time with friends & love-coaching clients who are killing it in their career, but for whatever reason are not treating their love life with the same level of dignity & respect. As a result, they just aren’t attracting the kind of healthy, soulful & committed relationship they desire or deserve. - Look, I get it. No matter how proud you are of the life & success you’ve created for yourself, it’s still painful to watch the majority of your peers ticking off the romantic checklist of falling in love, moving in, getting engaged, married & pregnant with such (apparent) ease. - It’s both rage & anxiety inducing to feel the constant pressure society places on women to measure their worth according to their relationship status. - And it can be downright heartbreaking to desperately want children, but feel like the clock is ticking and the window of opportunity for this dream is steadily reducing. - No wonder you sometimes settle for shitty behaviour from men - who wouldn’t?! (I know I did way longer than I should have). - BUT, what you need to understand is that it’s not really about the men at all, it’s about how YOU are showing up (or not showing up) in a romantic context that’s not only determining the quality of men that you’re attracting, but also the level of respect these men have for you - and subsequently, how they behave towards you. - I know that may not be easy to hear, but it’s actually very good news. Why? Because if you’re in control of the PROBLEM, then you’re also in control of the SOLUTION. — ❣️ If you want to feel as empowered, respected & successful in your love life as you do in your career, then you need to learn how to show up as a high value woman when in a romantic context, too. It takes time, it takes energy & it DEFINITELY requires you get out of your comfort zone. But, trust me trust me trust me, it’s the best decision you’ll ever make 🧡 - P.S. Want clarity on exactly HOW to do the above? Drop me a DM & I’ll tell you how I can help.
❣️Stop putting so much energy in to finding the love of your life. Doesn’t work like that, kiddo. Instead, put all that focus in to creating a LIFE you love, and the right person will plop themselves in to it when the time is right 💩
❣️[continued from yesterday’s post]: - This is what we do: we obsess over finding real love with someone who will stay, but the moment we do our first impulse is to run from it as fast as we can (often, back in to the arms of someone who has no capacity or availability for real love – at least, not right now). - The truth is that even though we say we want commitment & intimacy, if we’ve never really experienced these in our love life in a mature & healthy way, then they’re totally out of our comfort zone, so we sub-consciously rule out potential partners that could actually be a great fit for us. We tell ourselves we don’t really fancy them, they’re not our type - or that they’re boring. We nit-pick about the smallest, most irrelevant things as a way to keep real love at arms distance. It pains me to think how close I was to ending it with Joe in those early days because of how uncomfortable it felt to be offered real commitment by an emotionally available man. But, imagine if I’d let that loud, fearful voice in my head override the little voice in my gut that told me to stay. That told me that this man had the exact qualities – and imperfections – and past – that would help me heal my love life to an even deeper level, so that we could evolve in to the people we were meant to be together (well, I wouldn’t be writing these words to you right now, for one!) - Look, maybe the person you’re dating isn’t quite right for you – maybe you won’t ever really fancy them. But please, please PLEASE take it from me: - Stay open to the possibility that they COULD be, and so could YOU. And, for God’s sake don’t walk away before you’ve given it a proper chance. Don’t walk away because – even though it feels good – it’s not perfect, and it doesn’t look how you thought it would. But, most importantly, don’t walk away before you have sat & meditated & journaled & asked for guidance – A LOT. - Because I promise you, your intuition will soon make it indisputably clear whether you should stay or you should go. Don’t listen to your head, listen to your gut with this one: it won’t let you down. - Give me another ‘🦕’ ⬇️ if you agree 🧡
❣️I can still pin-point the exact moment our love story came dangerously close to falling off the cliff of our blossoming romance for me. - We were driving back to his family home in Worcestershire when he asked me to read some of the first draft of The Inner Fix that I’d been editing during our journey. - Sharing my words and my story with a man I’d just met wasn’t a particularly new endeavour for me. Having been both actress & oversharer for the majority of my life, I was well accustomed to revealing all sorts of intimate things about myself, a not so subtle method for hoodwinking men in to falling for a version of my identity that existed several layers above the truth. But what I learned in the car that day was that it’s not so much WHAT you share that initiates authentic intimacy, but WHO you share it with. - Ever since our worlds had collided @wildernesshq festie I was convinced Joe would be nothing more to me than a fun story to relay to my friends, a short-lived festival fling at best. - In the weeks that followed, I felt trapped between the ease and flow of our dynamic, and the scrambling panic this stirred in me because it felt so foreign. - When I was with Joe, there was no space or possibility for roleplay. My usual bullshit games just didn’t work, because a game requires two consenting players - and he had zero inclination to don a mask of any kind. In the simple transparency of this connection – with its total absence of the intensity I was so used to experiencing with a new lover, there was nowhere for me to hide. As a result I felt gut-wrenchingly vulnerable, and it took every ounce of self-restraint I had not to ask him to pull in to the nearest service station so that I could go and lock myself in the neutral space of a toilet cubicle for a bit. My mind was clambering around for an exit strategy from the very person and relationship I’d been so dedicated to manifesting only weeks beforehand... - ❣️Continued tomo! In the meantime, let me know ⬇️ if you’ve ever been inclined to don a mask at the start of a new romance. How did it leave you feeling? 🦕🧡
It’s all you @greatadventures__joeygould 🦕 ✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨Piccie by my incredible buddy @charliemackesy 🧡
❣️One of the most helpful lessons in the ‘Love’ chapter of The #InnerFix : - “It’s useful & interesting to look at what you SAY you want romantically, and what, in reality, you’re giving your energy to - and being able to discern whether the two match up. - How many of us have declared that we’re waiting for a stable, kind-hearted, ready-to-commit soulmate, get expend most of our energy on chasing emotionally shut down & unreliable commitment-phobes? It may not always feel like it, but who you choose to give your heart to is a CHOICE you get to make. Your job is to get clear on what it is you want, and then to work on staying emotionally healthy so that you’re able to recognise it when it crosses your path.” - ❣️Give me a ‘🦕’ in the comments below if you agree ⬇️🧡