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We all know that the 2nd and 3rd of January is the best time to start making New Year resolutions (once the dreaded NYE hangover has started to wear off, of course).
Whether it’s letting go of negative habits, or just getting really clear on what we want to manifest over the next 12 months, it’s hard to avoid the temptation to ride the ‘new year, new start’ tidal wave taking over social media and throw ourselves in to goal-setting with all the vivacity we can muster.
However, as an ambitious overachiever since the day dot, I can sometimes panic that my lofty goals don't stand a chance of being realised because they’re just so, well, lofty.
Thankfully, when I found myself in this plight a few years back, I heard something so brilliantly useful that my experience of goal-setting was never the same again.
I was listening to business coach Marie Forleo interview her buddy Danielle La Porte about her (then new) book The Firestarter Sessions over Skype.
Danielle was explaining how she approaches the concept of manifesting her deepest desires:
“When I identify what it is I most want I simply tell myself that it’s a DONE DEAL.”
She went on…
“And then I ask myself: If it’s a DONE DEAL, what action steps would I have taken to make it real?”
(The above is slightly paraphrased, but you get the gist).
SO simple, and yet so effective.
By telling yourself that the thing you want (let’s say, a great relationship for example) is a DONE DEAL, you take away that crippling worry that you may never get it - which then moves you in to a space of being able to look for a SOLUTION and take ACTION.
Taking action is absolutely key to making anything happen in your reality.
The problem is that most people are so stuck in the negative belief that they either don’t deserve to get what they want, or even if they do they don’t know how they’ll ever get it.
Which leaves them floundering around in inaction, wondering why everyone else seems to be getting that thing with (apparently) minimal effort.
A common misconception about The Law of Attraction is that you can just sit repeating positive affirmations all day whilst visualizing yourself already having your deepest desires met.
That is the first part of it, yes – but only in order to give you the confidence to start taking action so that your dream can become a reality.
Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but you ain’t gonna get washboard abs just by picturing yourself with washboard abs.
However, if you picture yourself having washboard abs, tell yourself they’re a DONE DEAL, and then ask yourself: If they’re a DONE DEAL, what action would I have taken to get them?
Well then, you’re off to the races, my friend.
One of my favourite quotes is:
“While you pray, move your feet.”
Taking action is (and always will be) the biggest contributing factor as to whether we get what we want – or we don’t.
I get asked all the time by women how this applies to getting a healthy, committed relationship.
The thing is, when it comes to taking action in romance, most of us are unknowingly taking the WRONG action – so much so that it actually pushes the love we so desperately want away.
But, if you’d like to learn how to take the right action in your love life then you’re in luck my friend, as I’ve created a FREE ebook especially for you that will show you exactly what you need to do - starting right now (and I promise, if you follow the steps I lay out in it exactly, this is one New Years resolution you won’t fail at or forget about before the end of January!)
The book’s called ‘7 Steps To Finding Real, Lasting Love in a Superficial World’ and you can get instant access to it by clicking this link.
In the book, you’ll learn:
A very specific proven 7-step process to finding real, lasting love in a superficial world.
9 myths that are destroying your chances of finding real love (when you know them you can rid yourself of them!)
The BIGGEST common mistake that’s keeping you stuck in a dead-end romantic rut (and what to do to get out of it fast).
The ONE secret no one tells you about how to get and keep your ideal relationship (this literally revolutionised my love life and the love lives of all of the women I’ve worked with).
The ONLY thing you need to remember when it comes to communicating with potential love interests.
A CRUCIAL mindset shift that will guarantee your long-lasting romantic success.
+ tons more.
After you confirm your email address, you’ll get sent a free download of the book (plus some other goodies!). Once you’ve signed up, leave a comment below and tell me:
What would you like to declare a DONE DEAL for 2019 when it comes to your love life?
And – most importantly – share with me 3 action steps you can take THIS WEEK to help move you one step closer to making that dream a reality.
Can’t wait to support you in making 2019 the year you chose to create romantic life that’s beyond your wildest dreams <3