HOW TO STOP BEING ‘PLAYED’ BY FU*KBOYS

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HOW TO STOP BEING ‘PLAYED’ BY FU*KBOYS

For the first five years of my career shift in to life and love-coaching, I worked part-time as a tutor and mentor to keep the pennies rolling in whilst I set up shop.

(As I always say, good things take times to grow – especially when it comes to setting up to a heart-centred business).

With a Bachelors degree in English Literature and a Masters in European Classical Acting, I was a good fit for teenage girls doing GCSE’s or A-Levels in English Lit, Classical Civilisation and Theatre Studies.

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HOW TO KILL A NEW RELATIONSHIP FAST

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HOW TO KILL A NEW RELATIONSHIP FAST

Three days after I met my boyfriend Joe in a rave in the woods at Wilderness, I found myself eating spaghetti bolognese with his aunt and uncle at their house a few miles down the road from the festival.

I appreciate this was pretty fast moving, as relationship progressions go.

However, having not washed for an entire long weekend – and gotten soaked through in a torrential downpour as we were packing up our tents – I’d be damned if I was going to turn down Joe’s offer of a hot bath and meal within 20 minutes.

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THE ‘BEST-WORST’ THING THAT WILL EVER HAPPEN TO YOU…

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THE ‘BEST-WORST’ THING THAT WILL EVER HAPPEN TO YOU…

A year or so in to our relationship, Joe and I were leaving a restaurant near Embankment station in London when I caught sight of a man selling his handwritten poems by the side of the street.

On closer inspection, I realised that this was the same man that my ex-boyfriend (‘Tiger’ in The Inner Fix) had bought a poem from the day we broke up back in the summer of 2012.

That poem - which Tiger had given to me when I left - was called Farewell Blessing.

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WHAT TO DO WHEN HE DOESN’T LOVE YOU BACK

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WHAT TO DO WHEN HE DOESN’T LOVE YOU BACK

When I was 22, I moved to Moscow with a bunch of friends from drama school to live in what can only be described as a class-A shithole.

Our flat was straight out of the soviet era: 

Grey, damp and without hot running water for pretty much the entirety of our stay.

But care, we did not, for we were there to PERFORM, dahhhhhling. 

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A FUN STRATEGY TO BECOME INSTANTLY MORE ATTRACTIVE THIS AUTUMN

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A FUN STRATEGY TO BECOME INSTANTLY MORE ATTRACTIVE THIS AUTUMN

I hope you had a magical August – mine was truly spectacular <3

Here’s just a few of the highlights:

  • I ran a workshop on ‘How To Meet The Love of Your Life at Wilderness’ (at – you guessed it – Wilderness Festival in Oxfordshire) and quite a few ladies who attended ended up meeting lovely fellas at the workshop/ in the festival that they’re now dating!

  • I celebrated my 3 year anniversary with Joe (as well as his 30th birthday) in epic style at Soho Farmhouse with both of our families and dearest friends.

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WHY COMMITMENT FEELS LIKE TORTURE

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WHY COMMITMENT FEELS LIKE TORTURE

When I was in the middle of the most fucked up year of my life, I got a very significant acting job.

I was to take on the title character in Shakespeare’s ‘The Taming of The Shrew’ in an outdoor summer production of the play.

As an English Literature and classical acting graduate, Shakespeare was my forte.

As a lost, angry and misunderstood hedonist, the shrew was a role I was all too eager to catapult myself in to as a distraction from my recent rapid weight gain, as well as the sporadic death threats I was receiving from my Russian ex-boyfriend (who I’d unknowingly given The Clap several months earlier).

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HOW TO YOU KNOW IF YOU’RE READY FOR MARRIAGE

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HOW TO YOU KNOW IF YOU’RE READY FOR MARRIAGE

Last Thursday, I went to the wedding of one of my dear school friends, Claire, and her (now) husband, Syd – who I’ve also known since I was 14.

I have to say, it was one of the most stunning weddings I’ve ever been to (helped by the fact that the setting was Ibiza!)
What was most magical, though, was seeing just how much Claire and Syd adore each other.

Not just as lovers or life partners, but as true friends.

Because theirs was my second wedding in this month alone, inevitably, I’ve found myself thinking a lot about marriage over the last few days…

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THE HARDEST THING (NOT) TO SAY TO YOUR LOVER

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THE HARDEST THING (NOT) TO SAY TO YOUR LOVER

Last week, I went to a Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous meeting in London.

And a woman shared something that I wish to GOD I’d been told at the beginning of my relationship with Joe.

But, at the same time, I know I probably wasn’t really ready to hear it until now…

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HOW TO SURVIVE A ROUGH PATCH IN A RELATIONSHIP

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HOW TO SURVIVE A ROUGH PATCH IN A RELATIONSHIP

A 1:1 love-coaching client recently shared with me how her partner and her had hit a wall in their relationship.

And she didn’t know if she should hold out and weather the storm, or just cut her losses and leave.

It’s a predicament I’ve been in many times myself…

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HOW TO INSTANTLY EXPERIENCE ROMANCE

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HOW TO INSTANTLY EXPERIENCE ROMANCE

Not meaning to sound all old-fashioned, but I think it’s a crying-shame that men don’t write women sonnets anymore.

I’d bloody LOVE to have someone write me a sonnet (if you feel the urge to do so, DON’T HOLD BACK).

The following sonnet is one of my all time favourites (I even wrote my English Lit dissertation on it at uni).

Which is why I plan to have it read at my wedding one day....

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THE SECRET TO KEEPING LOVE

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THE SECRET TO KEEPING LOVE

This Easter weekend, I realised the main reason my relationship keeps getting better, year after year.

My parents were away, my siblings were spending time with their own partners, and my boyfriend Joe had decided to go to Cornwall with a few of his guy friends.

Meaning that I’d be spending most of the weekend alone...

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THE ONE THING THAT’S BLOCKING YOU FROM A GREAT LOVE LIFE

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THE ONE THING THAT’S BLOCKING YOU FROM A GREAT LOVE LIFE

In mine and my friend’s book ‘The Inner Fix,’ we share one of the most life-changing parables I’ve ever heard.

(And as a former regular church-goer, I’ve heard a lot).

I first came across it back in 2012, when my heart was broken and I’d do just about anything to make it hurt a bit less...

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